Flirting can be considered an art or a whole different language. Either way, it’s a skill and something that can be mastered so you don’t come across as the jerk or the awkward weirdo loner.
If you want to learn to flirt like a pro, you have to know the signs. Follow our tips and practice until you become an expert.
Have an opening line. This is your way in so find a reason to talk to her. If you’re standing in line behind her, ask about what’s going on, remark about the weather, or something you noticed. Get creative, and be ready for whatever she says. If you can’t think of something to say, a compliment will work (see our tips on that below).
Make eye contact. If you don’t make eye contact, you’ll look bored or uninterested. After all, you’re flirting to be with her and hopefully, make her yours so this is important. Too shy to look her in the eyes? Look at the spot right between her eyes and it’ll look like eye contact to her.
Come up with a compliment. Pick one thing that you like about the way she looks and make sure it’s something sincere – it could be her hair, her smile or something she’s wearing. Let her know, in a friendly way, how much you like it. It’ll make her feel good and open up to you.
Smile. If you throw her a sly smile while locking eyes with her, she’ll get butterflies for sure and be a little light on her feet. Don’t get crazy with the smile though. Keep it light and smile often – showing her you’re interested, curious, and that you like talking to her.
Flirt with your body. The body language you use while flirting is just as important as what you say. Use good posture, point your body toward her, and try to find excuses to touch her.
Keep it light and fun. You’ll get a better response if you keep the conversation fun and light and filled with happy stuff. The point of flirting isn’t to bare your soul or share your honest opinions about everything. It’s to open the door, get the girl, and lots more down the road.
Practice makes perfect. It doesn’t hurt to practice on strangers, even if you’re not interested in them. You just might make someone’s day and you never know what could happen. Practice helps you learn what works and what doesn’t, especially if you practice on different types of women. All this practice will help you refine your skills so you can use that expertise on the one you’re really trying to target.
